Halloween

Halloween is one of those "holidays" I love and dread.  I have always been a sucker for a good dress up party.  In fact, my husband and I have a costume bin for theme parties we used to throw before we had the kiddos.  I LOVE dressing up.  I LOVE that my girls love dressing up.  It's fun.  It's cute.  It's silly.  It makes for awesome pictures that I treasure.
Now the idea of Halloween is bizarre to me as I think about it from a parent view.  Where did the whole idea of kids dressing up and going door to door to beg and look cute and ask for candy really originate? Hmmm...  I know we have friends that celebrate the holiday faithfully and get as excited (if not more so) as the kids.  We have friends that have chosen to forgo the whole thing because of faith based reasons or a true disgust for all the refined sugar, dye filled candy being passed out to the littles.
I have found that, as most things in the world of parenting, we are striving for a balance.  I was talking to a girlfriend the other night and we were laughing about how we used to be such perfect parents in our minds BEFORE we had kids.  Now it is a lot of learning as we go.  Halloween is one of those things.  My girls are old enough now they know about it and ask about.  We talk about it.  We realize it's fun. I LOVED it as a little girl.  We also talk about food and candy and chemicals and food dyes and what it looks like to find balance.  As I am sure you've gathered by now if you've been reading this blog, I really really want my girls to love real, whole foods.  BUT even more than that I want them to grow up with a healthy view of food and health and in my opinion (remember I am learning this as I go too) I have realized completely restricting something is only going to want to make them want that thing more.  (I have my own versions of this as an adolescent...no drinking alcohol lectures=why not try binge drinking in college..). Ok yes it's very different and yet it's the same.
I love that as a culture we celebrate so much around food and around gathering together with friends and loved ones around a table.  What I wish we could change is how we celebrate young children by giving them ridiculous amounts of candy. I am all for balance.  If this was the only holiday of the year that candy was dished out so freely I would probably relax a little more about it.  But every holiday seems to be an excuse for people to give kids bags, baskets, stockings, valentines, etc.. full of candy. Parades. Schools.  Birthday parties.  Birthday parties at school.  It seems to be a never ending cycle.  Think about how much candy your kiddos are given in a year.  My word!
So here are a few thoughts about what we do for Halloween but also throughout the year for holidays and candy laden events.
The most popular approach we've come up with so far is trading it in.  I grab some "healthier" versions of candies that I am comfortable giving my girls.  Things that don't have refined sugars, food dyes, etc..
I make up a little goodie bowl.  I usually keep a stash for unexpected events as well.  You know that time you have to run into the bank and the sweet teller dishes out suckers to the kids.  I also add other goodies or treats into that bowl.  I like Target's dollar bins.  I have found some super cute coloring books, headbands, glow sticks, stickers, activity books, crayons, and much more in those bins.  This way it isn't just food that is a "treat".
When we trade our candy in we make it a game.  An example would be "this headband costs 7 pieces of candy.."  It becomes fun and a also a time of learning numbers and value.  So far this goes over great with my girls.  We've never done it any other way so this is what they know at this point.  Will there be a day they say  "NO way mom"?  Sure there will and we will cross that bridge when we get there.  Right now this is where we are in the journey and it seems to be working. But we've also talked about why we want to trade it in so it doesn't appear that we are just being nasty parents that don't want our kids to have fun.  We make the trade in time fun and silly and sometimes munch on a few of those alternative goodies while we are trading.
My husband has been doing some little lessons on money with the girls lately.  So this year he told them they could trade some candy in for money (a.k.a coins) and save them to buy something else they would really like.
In our Halloween bowl for tomorrow we let the girls pick out some extras that they thought would be fun to hand out to the neighbor kids.  They chose tattoos(mustache tattoos included), a few whistles (neighbors beware!),glow sticks, and these silly little animal critter toys.  All from this place in town called Kent Novelty.  We tossed in some all fruit snacks and a few Trader Joe's suckers.  There's a variety in that bowl.  It's fun to have a mix of treats in our bowl.  We didn't spend anymore than all those big bags of candy from the grocery store which certainly aren't cheap and usually get eaten before  the festivities begin.
So these are just a few rambling thoughts from a mom who is learning along the way.

Pump Up the Immunity

This time of year we are always keeping our ears open for ways to boost our immune systems and help prevent the cold and flu bugs floating around.  Especially with little people who are around other little people, who are around other little people, who are around other little people...you get the idea.  Daycares, nurseries, libraries, museums...all those places seem to be breeding grounds for germs that turn into some pretty nasty results.

Now I by no means claim to have all this figured out but these are  some things that seem to work for our family at this point in our journey.  It's like most choices you make for your kiddos.  Do your research and find out what works for you and your family.  I want to simply share some things we've learned along the way that have seemed to work well for us and helping our kiddos reduce the amount of bugs they catch.  I think we can all agree that it's good for kiddos to get some bugs to build their immune system but when they are constantly sick that wears everyone out and can be overwhelming.

This is our winter time prevention list. I've added additional links to some categories if your interested in going deeper into that particular area.  I wanted to give you some ideas to navigate through but didn't want to overwhelm you with to much info.  Take a peek through the list and see if anything might be a good addition to you or your family's lifestyle.  By all means if you have a favorite prevention prescription please leave a comment and share.  Cheers to a healthy, happy winter!

1) Friends don't let friends eat processed foods .  Eliminate as much processed food as possible.  Why you ask? Well because processed foods contain so much "non-real food".  Additives, preservatives, food dyes, sugar, salt, and on and on.  Now this includes what I like to call "Health Store Junk Food."  Just because it's at the health food store doesn't qualify it as healthy or wholesome.  Just because it's Vegan, Vegetarian, Dairy-Free, or Gluten-Free doesn't qualify it as healthy or nutritious.  Read labels. Even in the health food store.  When processed food is being consumed it often limits the amount of whole foods being consumed.  By eliminating as much processed food as possible, it becomes easier to incorporate more vegetables and fruits.  Now I don't like to say never so that's not what I'm saying here. I know sometimes these things are just easy and sometimes we need easy, but as much as possible get them out of the normal day to day routine.

2)Veggies. Increase the amount of vegetables in the diet.  Whether your vegetarian, vegan, dairy-free, gluten-free doesn't necessarily matter.  Have vegetables as the main focus of the meal, and then other foods secondary. Vegetables contain amazing amounts of antioxidants and other healing properties.  Find recipes that incorporate lots of veggies in meals.  Let food be thy medicine. That medicine is found in fresh vegetables and fruits.

3)Say NO to Sugar.  Eliminate as much sugar as possible, especially refined sugars.  Refined sugar is the most toxic but also staying away from other forms of sugar as much as possible (organic sugar, evaporated cane juice, etc,).  Sugar is sugar is sugar.   This goes along with the first suggestion of reducing or eliminating processed foods.  Start paying attention to labels and how much sugar is in processed foods.  I think you'll be amazed.  Spaghetti sauce, ketchup, juices, granola bars, crackers, pre-packaged dinners.  Sugar weakens and suppresses the immune system making a person much more susceptible to a nasty bug that may be floating around. The surprising thing is that it doesn't take much sugar at all to cause the immune system to be temporarily impaired.  Not only that, but sugar affects the gut, which is the powerhouse of the immune system.  Experiment with sweetening things with whole foods like dates, figs, bananas, avocados, applesauce, pears, and other sweet fruits and veggies.  Adding more of these naturally sweet whole foods can help decrease the cravings for more processed, sugar laden foods. 

4) Eliminate/Reduce Dairy. This is a personal one that has made a world of difference in my life.  It might be worth exploring if you or your little one is constantly battling colds, congestion, or even ear infections.  I removed dairy.  Viola' my seemingly constant congestion disappeared.  I tend to avoid foods with dairy in it all costs, but if I happen to have something containing dairy, without fail the next day I wake up feeling as though I have a cold.  It took months of experimenting with this long ago before I realized that dairy and my body don't get along.   Dairy for lots of people creates excess mucus in the body, which isn't a good thing if your trying to fight an infection.  Some argue that this isn't true but I know for myself it is true.  Dairy causes cold like symptoms for me.  There's no question in my mind.  It's one of the big allergens a lot of doctors and natural health care providers will encourage parents to remove from the diets of babes with reoccuring ear infections.  Also it is a big one that is being advised to be removed from nursing mamas diets, if their babies are "colicky" or battling colds and/or frequent ear infections.  It may or may not work for you or you kiddos but it's good to pay attention to rhythms and symptoms and notice, or even try eliminating for a time and see if symptoms improve. 

5)Greens & Greens. Greens are constantly raved about in their ability to prevent disease and create overall health and well-being.   Increase the amount of leafy greens your family eats. Choose from broccoli, kale, brussels sprouts, bok choy, spinach, or collards.  Whatever you or your kiddos will eat. Even adding leafy green herbs like parsley or cilantro.  Green veggies are on the most alkaline foods, and raising the body's PH to be more alkaline is one of the best ways to boost immunity.  Green smoothies are a great way to do this.  Combine some greens and berries and you've got yourself and "super food" smoothie! 

6)Probiotics.  Probiotics are healthy bacteria found in supplements and certain foods that help create a healthy gut.  Cultured milk products (yogurt, kefir) are the most popular source of probiotics found in whole food sources.  However, if your staying away from milk products this can pose a challenge.  Also a lot of these mainstream brand contains heaps of sugar which as we discussed above stuns or impairs the immune system, making it not as effective at fighting illness.  There are non-dairy versions of these foods but they can get expensive.  I will occasionally buy coconut milk kefir or a non-dairy yogurt but I don't do it often because those things get real expensive and I find we can get the probiotics in other, more cost effective ways.  Kombucha is also a good source of probiotics.  We've found all of us do really well taking a probiotic supplement.  If the gut isn't healthy, it's hard for the whole body to be healthy.

7) Garlic.  Add fresh garlic to meals.  Garlic has long be revered for it's antibacterial and antiviral properties. My husband and I love garlic.  The more the better in our view.  My girls don't always feel the same way so I try to be mindful to get some in their food without overdosing it to the point that they won't eat it.  Cooking garlic lessens the intensity of the flavor and roasted garlic is amazing, which can be helpful in getting little ones to eat their garlic.  Garlic can be chopped or minced and added to soups, stews, stir-frys, casseroles, pizzas, hummus, dips...

8) Vitamin D3.  The "sunshine" vitamin.  Now I'm not normally a vitamin and supplement kind of girl but the more I've read the more I feel good about adding this to our routine. Pediatricians, Chiropractors, and Naturopaths have told me that this is an important vitamin to add. It's not often all these health care providers agree on something so when they do I take note.  No matter how much we get out in the winter we'd never get the amount of Vitamin D that our body needs.  Vitamin D helps in the absorption of calcium and also has been found to help increase immunity. This is why it's added to our routine. 

9) Vitamin C.  Vitamin C is well-known for it's help in supporting immune function.  Vitamin C is readily available in whole foods. Dr. Weil has good sources of Vitamin C listed as:  Apples, asparagus, berries, broccoli, cabbage, melon (cantaloupe, honeydew, watermelon), cauliflower, citrus fruits (lemons, oranges), kiwi, fortified foods (breads, grains, cereal), dark leafy greens (kale, spinach), peppers (especially red bell peppers,which have among the highest per-serving vitamin C content), potatoes, and tomatoes.  We eat a variety of these foods but have found during the winter months a little extra boost of vitamin C is quite helpful for all of us.  I found a sugar free, orange flavored brand that I am happy with and that my girls beg me for each morning.  I don't do these all year but during the winter I give them to my girls daily. 

10) Kombucha. Kombucha is a fermented tea that has long been acclaimed for it's health benefits, including immune boosting because of the amount of probiotics it contains. I honestly swear by this stuff for our little family.  This is where I head at the first sign of a cold coming on, but also drink it a few times a week as a preventive.  My girls LOVE kombucha, which is so funny to me but I embrace it, and it does wonders on helping them fight things off and just keeps their digestion healthy and well.  We brew our own at home, which is way more cost effective.  There are lots of websites and info on starting your own kombucha brew. 

11) Sleep.  It's so vital to a healthy well-being.  I'm not always the best at being disciplined in this area but I am working on being more intentional with going to bed earlier.  I always notice the difference when I'm taking care of myself in this way.  Same goes for kiddos.  Sleep is crucial.  Rest is crucial.  It's so easy to get caught up in the cycle of constantly going and doing but that exhausts everyone and makes everyone much more susceptible to getting sick.  Creating space for rest is so important in maintaining a healthy immune system.  I'm sure we can agree that we all have been in a place of having been overly exhausted for whatever reason and then catching a bug of some sort. 


12) Humidifiers.  Our house gets really dry and we've found that a humidifier in each of our bedrooms helps tremendously.  I like to add a few drops of eucalptyus essential oil to each of the humidifiers, which helps keep our sinuses open.  This is also fabulous if for a little one that is struggling with a cough or lots of congestion that seems to be more aggravating at night time. 

13) Netti Pot.  Also referred to as nasal irrigation.   The nasal passages are lined with a layer of mucus.  This mucus is the bodies first defense in preventing illnesses.  If the mucus becomes too thick and dry or too thin and runny, it is easier for bacteria and viruses to penetrate the nasal lining and cause the swelling and excess discharge of mucus we call a “cold.”  While a Netti Pot isn't for a little one saline drops in the spray or drop bottles come in handy for little noses.

14) Tea.  We've been drinking more tea, my girls included.  They think it's fun to have a warm cup of tea with mom and/or dad.  I've been learning a little bit about the benefits of different varieties and am so intrigued and hoping to learn more.  We've been buying loose leaf teas and creating our own concoctions.  I'm amazed at the healing benefits and antioxidant values of so many of the teas.  This is an area I've just really started to explore deeper in the past year.  At this point we've played around with loose leaf rooibos and herbals teas (I think this is important to note because while other teas have a lot of benefits, I personally don't want my kiddos having the caffeine component of those teas.  My girls have enough energy as is!) Check out the benefits of teas with nettles, echincea, alfalfa, elderberry, and how they affect or boost immunity.  I've had fun buying loose leaf teas and making my own tea blends.  If your in the Grand Rapids area Global Infusion has an amazing variety of tasty, loose leaf teat.

16) Turmeric.  Turmeric has long been used in the Chinese and Indian systems of medicine for healing inflammation. I've heard it referred to as nature's perfect antibiotic.  It's long been recognized for it's antiseptic and anti-inflammatory properties, which  comes in handy when your fighting off a cold or flu bug.  This makes it a fabulous spice to include in your meals on a regular basis to prevent those nasty bugs from ever developing into something.  Why not flavor your dinner while adding a dose of prevention to your life.  At the first sign of a cold, I make a paste of raw, local honey and turmeric and give that to my girls.  Because the honey is so sweet they take it very willingly.  This is an Ayurvedic theory that I've found to be very effective.  (Obviously this isn't helpful unless the babe is old enough to have been introduced to honey). 

15) Elderberry.   The flowers and fruit of this shrub have a long history of use for treating colds and flu.  They are said to be especially good for respiratory ailments by helping to reduce the inflammation, which is beneficial when battling coughs and colds.  Elderberry is making a name for itself in our country in the past few years making appearances in cough syrups, tea blends, and vitamins.  I have found I prefer to just actually buy dried elderberries and make my own elderberry tea, and mix that into smoothies, juices, popsicles, or simply sipping on some sweet elderberry tea.  


I wanted to leave you with one of my new favorite concoctions.  I've been making Elderberry Popsicles. Immune boosting Pops, if you will. 


Elderberry Pops


*Add elderberries  to a small pot of water and bring to a boil.  
*Simmer for on low for 15-20 minutes.
*Cool.  Blend some of the tea with frozen blueberries or a mix of frozen fruits.
*Pour into popsicle molds and freeze. 
*Save remaining tea to sip or add to smoothies, juices, or think of other creative ways to slip it into your lifestyle.  
*Easy way to add a little extra "boost" to your kiddos immune system. 

  




*****If your interested in learning more on diet and immunity for children, one of my favorite reads is, John Douillard's "Perfect Health for Kids: Ten Ayurvedic Health Secrets Every Parent Must Know."

Attitude of Gratitude

This time of year gets all of us foodies real excited about what new recipes to try for the holidays and how to alter and adapt things to fit into our preferred ways of eating.  I really love spending time in the kitchen and creating new dishes.  It's a creative outlet for me.  An artistic expression.  I love it. It brings joy and peace and delight in creating and then sharing with others.  It's part of my passion.  So I along with many nutrition friends and fellow bloggers have been collecting my holiday recipes.  I've been posting and also taking notes. Goodness knows there are more recipes out there than I could ever have the time to make.  It only takes a moment to google and you can find something for every eating preference..vegan, vegetarian, gluten-free, sugar-free, egg-free, dairy-free, corn-free, soy-free.....

But are we free? Do we consume food or does it consume us?

This past week we've been talking about Thanksgiving in our house and what that means.  Why we celebrate it.  How it began.  We got a cute little book from the library that describes in a kid friendly way the first Thanksgiving.  We've been talking about what we are thankful for and what it means to be thankful.  Getting to the basics.  I love having a curious 3 year old in my house because it makes me stop and re-evaluate lots of things and getting really real with why we do what we do.

I've really realized in the past week or so how much this time of year focuses on food. Menu planning.  Grocery shopping.  Organizing who goes where for what meal and at what time.  Who's cooking.  Who's coming.  Who's bringing what dish.  Do you eat before, during, or after the football game?

For some this can bring a lot of nostalgia.  Childhood memories.  Favorite foods and dishes. Grandma's cooking.  For others this can bring a lot of anxiety and stress.  All of the cooking and prep.  Trying to navigate through food preferences and/or issues.   I've even had conversations with women who nearly despise this holiday because it is so food oriented and they are recovering from eating disorders. 

So as we enter into this holiday I've made it a point I want to teach my girls about gratitude.  A heart that is full and thankful for the abundance of life and all that we've been so blessed with.  I am trying to teach them the connection of food and well-being as well but really what I ultimately want to teach them is to live a life of abundance.  To laugh, play, cry, hug, smile, serve, love, share, create, and embrace all that they have.  It's easy to get caught up in our culture of want but can I shift my thinking to express and acknowledge all that I am and have?  That's so much more challenging but so much more life giving.

Months ago I started a Gratitude journal.  At the end of the day I jot down 3 things I am grateful for that day.  It's beautiful and sacred.  It's simple.  Often I find my eyes are misty just writing these things down, especially when they involve the people I love the most.  The laugh of my 20 month old.  The sweetness of slobbery baby kiss.  The embrace of my husband.  The way my 3 year old wrinkles her nose at me.  An authentic conversation with a girlfriend.  It brings me present and aware of what's going on in my day to day life.  I don't want to miss that.

So I would invite you my friends that whatever lands on your table this week or whatever work it takes to get to that fancy dinner can we take a moment and just pause and breathe and be fully aware of the amazing abundance of life we have?    To know that gratitude is a way of being. An openness to what we've received and our expression of that blessing. Maybe it takes writing things down and creating your own Gratitude journal. Maybe it's acknowledging someone in your life that you hold dear.  Maybe it's recognizing all that you are and finding gratitude there.  Whatever it is, this is what we teach our children.  They watch us. They learn from us.  Can we raise a generation of kiddos that begin to shift their thinking from "I want" to "I have" or "I am"? A kiddo that realizes a time of Thanksgiving is about so much more than what is on the table but that it's about what is in the heart. 

Grace & Peace to you as you enter into a season of Thanksgiving! May your heart be filled with the blessings and abundance of life!

Mindful Mama

Do you ever feel that your physically in a space but your mind is a million miles away? Do you ever realize your hearing someone talk but have no idea what they just said?  Or maybe that your trying to juggle twenty things at once and really can't remember what's supposed to happen when or where or even why? Do you wonder how life is flying by so quickly? Or when you'll actually have time for yourself again?

These are all questions I've asked or answered yes to since entering into mama-hood.  It's a time of transition and change and growth and it's not always easy.  It's a gift and unbelievably beautiful but it doesn't always feel beautiful.

Being a parent is intense.  Intensely inspiring.  Intensely amazing.  Intensely beautiful.  Intensely divine. Intensely moving.  Intensely overwhelming.  Intensely emotional. Intensely consuming.  Intensely self-less.  Intensely tiring.  Intensely full of change.   Intensely ________  (I'm sure you have some of your own to add!)

As we talk about nutrition and food, I think it's important to not get to stuck or consumed there.  There are so many things that "feed" us.  Now don't get me wrong, I love food, I love to cook, I love to read about nutrition.   I think these things are invaluable. What we put in our bodies affects how we feel, our energy, our mood, our physical health and disease prevention.... BUT I believe there are even bigger things that feed us. REST. PHYSICAL ACTIVITY. RELATIONSHIPS. FAITH. PURPOSE.  I think some of these things can trump and 'feed' us more than any amount of kale ever could.  It's not just the physical heart that needs to be well and strong but also the spiritual heart and soul. 

What if you were to ask yourself, "What feeds me well?"  "What do I walk away from feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, restored?"  "What do I truly crave when things seem overwhelming?"  There are lots of answers to these questions and each person will likely have a different answer.  Maybe for you it's tea with a friend, a walk in the woods, a massage, a good long nights sleep, listening to an inspiring teacher, being part of a community of faith, time with family or friends, yoga, a good book, a hot bath, a night away....the list can go on and on.  It's discovering what keeps you fed and making sure you aren't starving yourself.

I write this because I've found myself  'starving' a many times over the past few years.   A longing and craving that food doesn't and won't ever fulfill.  The realization that at times I haven't cared for myself well.  That I have lacked at 'feeding' my heart and soul.  At the same time feeling like I am pushed up against a wall in trying to find time and/or space to actually be fed.  It's not easy. 

This is where I come back to siting with the idea of being mindful. Mindfulness is being present, aware, of holding the mind in the same space where the body is and with whatever the body is doing.  Engaging the senses in what is happening.  Mindfulness is a way of being present with what is happening to me physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually right here in this moment.

So this raises the question..."Am I living mindfully?"

Can I take some time to just sit and breathe and realize I'm not going to achieve perfection in this life? Can I let go of some of the expectations I'm living in?  My house isn't going to be spotless. My kids aren't always going to behave perfectly, especially in front of other people.  I won't do it all right.  I am going to make mistakes.  I don't have all the answers.  I'm not the perfect parent and never will be.  My kids aren't going to eat perfectly or do anything else perfectly all the time. I won't always have beautiful, organic, homemade meals on the table.

I think in letting go of some of expectations, whether conscious or subconscious, we find freedom.  Freedom to be.  Freedom to not be perfect.  Freedom to be on the journey.  And in finding this freedom I believe we give our kiddos a gift of not having to be perfect as well.  To give them permission to explore and learn and make mistakes. That in my opinion is priceless. 

So today my friend may you take a moment to just sit and breath and ask what it is that you need to be truly fed.

Grace & Peace to you!